Mom and dad were divorced when mom was pregnant, but there was no question who was her dad biologically. Many people believe that they will not get caught if they tweak the state of their finances a little, and hope that by doing so they may get away with paying less in child support or alimony. "My God," I said, swallowing hard. About a decade ago, a friend I knew and cared about deeply told me that she was having an affair with her child's best friend's father. What can lying to your child about their father lead to? If she does not know who the father of her child is, she must say that she does not know. He is the only child and lives with mom and dad. Children desperate not … He was married five times and divorced five times, four children between three of the wives. “Whether it’s right to make children believe in Father Christmas is an interesting question, and it’s also interesting to ask whether lying in this way will affect children in ways that have not been considered.” The authors accept that lying to children may sometimes be right. Instead of pretending that Dad doesn't exist, tell them the truth. A woman now has a legal obligation to tell the correct man that he is the father of her child. How to protect your child from the narcissistic father or mother who engages in parental alienation Understanding parental alienation. My niece had the same daddy as her older sister for the first 13 years of her life. Eventually, the truth will come out and children usually end up resenting their moms for this lie when they get older. I have a 10 year old son who is constantly lying. I am now 37 years old. And, whatever you do, don't tell your kids that their father is dead. Emotional abuse is an integral part of parental alienation because parental alienation is ultimately a severe and direct form of that abuse. Rep. Peter Lawson who sponsored the bill in Ohio said, Ohio no longer rewards mothers who lie about who the father of their child is. He has had either his dad or as a stay at home parent for most all of his life minus from about 4-6 years old. He hurts everyone he is in contact with. I spent many years entertaining the relationship only to be constantly disappointed in him. The legal landscape will be changing soon with the introduction of bills in Florida, California, Oklahoma, New Jersey, Oregon, and Vermont. What is parental alienation and what can you do about it? He is a very sad and pathetic man. A man who has been told by the mother that he is the father of her child can sue her if she is lying. Most psychologists suggest that children need to … They may not like what you have to say, but in the end, they will appreciate it. When she turned 13, dad's new wife insisted on a paternity test for my niece. I had a compulsive lying father who cheated as well. The vengeful mothers who tear fathers from their children's lives: Britain's top parenting guru on one of the unspoken scandals of our age. Unfortunately, lying to a family court judge about income or assets is a relatively common practice. A Dr. Laura Markham answers a question from a mom who feels guilty about lying to her 8-year-old about the Tooth Fairy:.